Last week I wrote a blog post about How a Tomato Timer Stopped Me from Ripping My Hair Out and yes, it worked and yes, it showed I’m not perfect.
More important, I received so much feedback from people along the lines of “OMG, that’s me!”
Far too often we tend to put others ahead of ourselves.
Here’s what I heard and the feeling I attached to their statement.
- I’ve got this client that expects me to jump when she snaps her fingers. Stress.
- This prospect is becoming less ideal. He bombards my inbox with questions that were clearly answered multiple times in the last 5 emails and face to face meeting…but it’s ok, I need the business. Out of Control
- I had to decline an invite out with my friends on Saturday night because I had to finish writing a proposal. Resentful
- Skipped my workout this morning so I could go to work early and catch up. Frustrated.
- I can’t get anything done, my inbox is so full. Overwhelmed.
- I’m sick and tired of this. I want to start feeling powerful and in control again. Fatigued.
Hell no…who wants to feel like that!
Do we all have these types of people in our lives… yes, maybe, no? I think we all do in some way.
How can we fix this? can we? what if we lose that client? what if we don’t get the new contract?
We over analyze, overthink and just plain worry ourselves on what “might happen”.
All that time wasted worrying.
How do you want to feel?
Here are some of the tips I offered my ladies to make things a little easier:
When taking on a new client, right from the beginning, be up front about what she can expect from you.
Mary, I’m so happy to have you on board and just to let you know, if you send me an email, I’ll respond within 24 hours, except on weekends.
When you have that prospect or client that emails you questions, upon questions, upon more questions on the same topic; quite frankly because they either deleted the email, filed it or didn’t bother to read it.
Mr. Smith, I’m always happy to answer any of your questions and your latest series of questions were already answered in our meeting and in the last 3 emails. If you have misplaced the audio recording of the meeting or the emails, I’d be happy to resend them to you.
When you find yourself checking email every 5 minutes waiting for client information.
Miss Davidson, when can I expect to receive your specs for the custom necklace you’d like me to design? when I receive the specs, if I have any questions, I’ll contact within 24 hours.
While we’re on the topic of email, a flush of panic takes over because you have over 200 emails in your inbox.
Emails that you have subscribed to, if it’s older than 2 weeks, it’s not that important. Unsubscribe and delete. Don’t worry, the person you subscribed to won’t be offended.
I’m not going to waste your time on the calculation on checking your email every 5 minutes because you’re waiting for something.
This step alone, will free up so much space in your inbox. You can always subscribe at a later time.
When you find yourself always saying “yes” to the always “urgent” work that comes in, when in fact, it’s not really urgent. Or that client that expects you to jump when she snaps her fingers.
I’m stoked to hear about your new project Jane and I’m honoured to be involved in it. I have a consult spot open Monday of next week, we can jump on Skype and work out the details and get started.
the objection comes in “can’t you work on it this weekend?”
your answer “I’m away this weekend” and never apologize for it. You should never be sorry for spending time with your friends and family.
If you get caught up in a frenzy of a busy day, whether it’s doing what you love or heck, even doing what needs to be done…STOP.
Roll your chair back, put your hands in your lap. Close your eyes.
and breath…breath deeply from your belly.
Think of what you have to be grateful for at that moment.
Not the “woo woo” stuff, but true and honest gratitude.
Yesterday at 2:37pm I rolled my chair back, put my hands in my lap, closed my eyes and breathed deeply and said out loud…
“I am so damn grateful so have the freedom to take a break when I want”
I turned off my monitor, went upstairs, made a cup of tea and sat down in front of the window to sip it…slowly.
“I am so grateful to listen to the quiet and feel my shoulders drop while I enjoy this cup of tea. Oh look at that little sparrow in the tree, fluttering around.”
When honouring a true gratitude, I feel inspired and motivated.
- I take many breaks during the day. I feel in control.
- Say no to projects that don’t give me tingles down my spine. Frees me up to work with people that rock my world. I feel full-filled.
- Every evening, I plan out my top three priorities for the next day. My day is done, I feel complete.
- Before bed, I have a 30 minute meditation. I feel relaxed and centred.
- When I go to bed, I listen to a sleep track. I feel warm and safe.
I don’t do these things to save time or to help me sleep.
I do these because of how it makes me feel.
When something feels good, I do more of it. It’s that simple.
To coin that popular saying “do more of what you love and less of what you hate”… is it a trendy statement? who cares.
Just do it… it really is that simple.
What’s one thing you absolutely love to do… doesn’t have to be related to business. That one things that gives you so much pleasure it makes you want to climb on the roof and shout out your joy to the world. Share in the comments below.
Until next time…